Originally Posted by LifeRecovery

What I finally realized (about alcohol and the affair) was that I was EXPECTING the person that harmed me had the wherewithal to help fix me. That was a false narrative and only created more heartache for me. I was under the false impression that I would get resolution from him if he would only answer my 1000s of questions. I have overall gotten resolution but it has only come from me. Even if he did answer all of my questions it would have kept the focus in the wrong place.....on him. I had already spent enough energy on him.