Originally Posted by biminiblue

Doesn't matter what label you attach. If you are drinking more than a couple on any occasion, it is or will become a problem.

I was an alcoholic before I turned 18. I went on to mayhem and destruction in my life and others' for the next 12 years. I hope you won't follow my path.

Whatever you're drinking now will increase and it gets exponentially more difficult to quit.

If you want to be in the military, quit now while it's still possible.

Welcome to the site!

Originally Posted by biminiblue

The fact that you sought out, joined, and posted on a site named "Sober Recovery" says you already know what the answers to your questions are.

Listen to the side of you which says, "Do only that which is good for you."

I know I used to drink "at" exes too. It did temporarily numb out the sad/hurt feels from the breakup.

Then I would sober up and we were still not together. It takes a lot less time to get over hurts when I'm not drinking. I can process things very quickly now, but when I was drinking I just kept the resentments and misery going. Alcohol messes with brain function.