I got tested the minute I figured out the extent of his lies. Fortunately I don't have anything, but was also (irrationally) disappointed that I had no proof. I kind of think I just know. I mean, what proof do I need? He was spending hours texting someone and I had no idea who it was. I could ask, but that would break no contact, and also, he would probably just lie -- he has so far. I have come to realize that he lies with a straight face. Oddly enough, the only times I have seen him lose his composure were times when he was tripping. I should spend less time thinking about him. It's a really unpleasant experience.
Ladybird, I'm sorry for what your ex put you through. That was really horrific behavior.