I have a problem with the hiding it and lying. Rugsweeping?
Its not ok with me.
i think most of us here are in total agreement with you on this one! being lied to, especially by someone in your inner circle, someone you are SUPPOSED to have a trusting, open relationship with, is a real violation. she did so because she had ulterior motives.....she was drinking and did not want you to know. so thought she could "get away with it". that's what alcoholics do...............
this was on her part pre-meditated, she didn't accidentally fall face first IN to a martini. so she's playing both sides now.......you and AA. it's sneaky and manipulative. which means she isn't "getting" the program at all..........