Thank you for all the replies, they are very encouraging and helpful to hear. I found out last night that he also has been talking to a girl he met at the casino when he was there gambling and drinking. It’s been going on a couple weeks at least but I think it may have contributed to his waffling on wether or not he was going to leave. Then on Valentine’s Day he told me he didn’t want to be with me anymore. And the messages I found were written to her on Valentine’s Day. It pretty much sealed the deal for me. I just need him to get the rest of his stuff and leave. I know it’s a disease and he is sick but I can’t support him anymore. He is selfish and self serving. He needs to leave us alone for awhile. The kids and I need time to heal.