Oh smarie, my heart hurts for you. What a lot To deal with.
You’ve had a lot of great advise already, let me just add to the chorus a little...
You did not PUT Hike on the streets. He disappeared into a bottle and put himself there. Conversely, you do not have the power to take him off the streets. If you had that power, he wouldn’t have disappeared in the first place. The first time.
You can’t love us sober. You can’t wish us sober. We have to do it ourselves, and a lot of us don’t make it. I hope he does, I really really do. But it has to be him. Taking him in will not help him. Sounds counterintuitive but it’s true.
If it were as easy as our partners wanting us sober, I would have quit the second my drinking got out of control. My parter is lovely, but she couldn’t do it and would never, ever deserve to be put in that role.