I'm not really frustrated by the delay, I'm trying to take it as it comes, and let AW go thru her mourning process.
I was with my ex for ruffle 13 years, maybe 4-6 of those he was clean/sober YET was still “mourning” losses in his life from years ago. I know no one ever truly gets over a great loss in their lives and the wounds remain. But in time the mind protecting it’s sanity covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. For my ex that did not happen but instead became justifiable reasons at any given time to continue his self-destructive ways.
Guess what I am trying to say is that for many alcoholics the mourning process never seems to end. And for us codies we can get lost in their plausible excuses.