@4thegirls - thank you for sharing your story!!!!! <3
This is not my success story, but there is a man in my town that is on television and goes to AA. He's pretty candid with his sobriety. He still attends meetings every day and even hosts them. He's been sober 20+ years, I believe, and he didn't lose his wife. I have heard other success stories like that, but they were all in AA, being told by AA members with years of sobriety under their belts and who are STILL attending AA.
With all my being I don't want to lose my husband, but there does come a time with a LOT of us spouses where we have to let the disease win to save ourselves and sometimes our children as well. I would gauge a lot on how willing your husband is to seek help and get better. You can absolutely tell the tree by its fruit.
I'll hope along with you, Hope4chng. I'm all about a happy ending. Please keep coming back. We're all in this boat, even if it makes us sea-sick. (hugs)