Couldn't agree more Ophelia. In my early recovery, I would post on the new to recovery forum and the women and men were very compassionate and understanding. They definitely told me that I was deserving of more. These people had walked in shoes that my axh walked in so I respected their opinions.
I stayed strong and left. Sadly to say, it was the best thing for me. Hugs my friend and thanks to all of our SOBER A's that respond. We love ya!!