hearthealth....LOL....I hope you liked the video. You do get the symbolism?
(I would never send you anything bad!)....
In my opinion, when you are asking or attempting to teach a man of your husband's age about emotional sensitivity....it is too late...you are on a fool's errand....
I tend to think that whatever his issues are...they are so deep seated...from childhood, most probably, and just "baked into the cake"....
A question....I am under the impression that you children are still young....and, you mention being close to retirement....I tend to think of people near retirement as being of an older age than those with younger biologic children....(though I have heard of early retirement)...why retire so early?.
I can tell you for 100 per cent...that "going alone" is much, MUCH, easier than living with an abusive man as a millstone around your neck. And, an act of kindness for the children....
I went alone, with three small children...and life was so much more fun, for all of us!
And, I can tell you that the more support you get...and, there is a lot of support out there...the easier it is....