Saying thank you to recovering As who post here.
The most important person in my real life that was supportive of me going no contact with my AH (stbx) is a recovering alcoholic. There was absolutely no bull from her whatsoever. At my worst, I was thinking of calling him, and she said, "if you do that, I'll never talk to you again!" Today she told me that when her addiction was at its worst, her husband told her that if she didn't stop drinking, he would take the kids away and she would never see them again, and she knew he was serious because he never made idle threats. So she stopped drinking. She goes to therapy. She works on herself... and in the past half year, both she and SR have given me the best advice and support. So to all of you recovering As out there who post here with your no bullsh*t advice that's really hard to hear sometimes, thank you for saving my life.