Then I went home and found he'd rung the addiction center/inpatient/outpatient place to find out what they offer there!!
He's read all about their programme and agreed that out patient is what he'd like to do if he has another 'slip' but if he drank over days again he wants the referal for inpatient!! In between he wants to see how it goes with what he's got - I'm cool with that, deep down it feels right and fair.
Then my elderly ex neighbour rang to say she wants him to connect her to the net and give her a starter lesson - TOMORROW!! D said for me to say yes, it'd be his pleasure!
I guess my meltdown didn't break him, I didn't want to add to it all and hurt him.....
Okaleedoakaly - you can all call me a prat now!