Hi, Newlywed.
Welcome to SR.
Very sorry to read about your situation.
Everyone deserves respect from their partners.
Everyone.
Criticism about your appearance is totally, absolutely wrong.
The other stuff: paranoia, excuses why he can’t go to rehab, abusing a highly addictive drug, indicate to me that he is deep into his addiction and is not ready to give it up.
Your decision to make, of course, but I would run far and fast as there is bound to be even more trouble ahead.
P.S. guard your finances. Hydro is expensive.