Hi Equus, All I can add is that I am going trough this too. My H has been going to AA meetings since the spring. After the month of soberity he relapsed. Not benders just single beers but a relapse none the less. The last month has been rough with slips but he is on the upswing. Your experences with counseling has help us to find him a one on one counselor and out patient groups. It has to be frustrating for u to see him so down. Added by the finance concern boundries. All I can say is keep up the good work on yourself, you've inspired me. Take Care, Kerry