((equus)) i don't really have many words of wisdom. i think in my case i felt like i didn't have the right to be angry, that being angry meant that i wasn't being supportive. i had to dissect what the anger was really directed at - and i think i had to tell myself over and over that it was directed at...the disease, the hopelessness i felt sometimes, my powerlessness (control), my inability to act on what i knew what right/good for me. i'm with minnie on the one about x amount of recovery work. just know that you are not alone and we'll be here to listen.