And the rest? It's no wonder that you're angry. And I have no idea what is reasonable and doubt that I would even if I were in your situation.
Blimey, that wasn't very supportive, was it?
Actually it was - it means alot to hear.
Should I have a boundary that says he should do x amount of time on recovery stuff?
Yep - that there would be a rule wouldn't it?
ARGH!! It felt like a boundary because I expect to people both to work (boundary being I don't keep anyone!!) - he isn't and right now can't but what I don't know is whether that means the boundary that I don't keep someone else should be replaced by a 'reasonable expectation' (ehem or rule!).