When I first read your post about going out into the woods and telling imaginary him everything,
no editing, I immediately tensed up and started shaking my head no. Then it occurred to me...even though its the last thing I want to do, that means I really need to do it. My Mastiff Piper and I trapse around in the woods several times a week. Its my relaxation,
my thinking and crying time. So Ill be talking to imaginary him very soon. 😊
Originally Posted by
dandylion 
Wamama.....one of the exercises that was so very helpful, for me, was what I call the "Wailing Wall".....
this is how it goes....
Find a place where you are completely alone...(otherwise, onlookers may think you have flipped your bonnet)....lol...
I liked to go to a meadow on the edge of the woods....
Imagine that a person that you have strong emotions about is seated a few feet in front of you, as you face them.
Then, begin saying whatever is in your heart or mind to them. do NOT edit it...let it all come pouring out....anything that you would like to say or for them to hear....And/or....you can even scream at God or the Universe....
Keep going until it is all said...Scream if it feels good...the louder/the better....
Keep going until the tears have the mascara streaming down you face and the snot is flowing....keep going until you can't find any more to say....sob until there are no more tears will come....
This exercise will get you through some terrible pain. You can do it as often as you need/want to...
You can do a mini-version...in your car or in your house, or in your back yard...if you can truly be alone.
It really helps to externalize a lot of the negative energy and pain that is bottled up, inside....like you have shared it with the Universe and you are being heard....
***Some religions actually have this as part of their healing ritual for when a loved one is lost.....