Hi, Jewelstar.
I say this a lot on his site, but time and distance will bring clarity.
Fwiw, the fact that he still wants to be in the kids’ lives may (or may not) get him off the total dirtbag list.
We’ll see.
Take care of yourself, put your kids and you FIRST, and let him go his way.
Hurts, yeah, but, this, for the moment, is your new normal.
Have you thought about what you will do if he wants to reconcile?
Seems unlikely, sure, but he wouldn’t be the first addict to want to run back to the familiar when the new life starts showing cracks.