Originally Posted by
Sasha1972 
The thing is, I wasn't even messing up. Not even slightly. Not even a tiny mistake on my part. And I knew it - even had the emails from my colleague with the time on them. But I STILL reacted as though I had done something wrong.
Collateral stress. How many times did you have this same type of reaction to an incident/mistake created by your Ex?
I know I got tied up in knots over & over (until I knew better) due to all the drama of my husband's poor decisions/behaviors. It became sort of 2nd nature to "own" the stress of mistakes I didn't make & it wasn't difficult to extend that codie response out to everyone in my circle - friends, family, colleagues.