In writing this I see a huge change in EVERYTHING took place once I went No Contact with my parents.
The abuse from them kept me in a cycle of staying with my husband throughout his alcoholism, even during the times I left him. Learning to leave my husband helped strengthen me to completely sever ties with my parents. Going No Contact with my parents enabled me to go No Contact with my husband when he relapsed again.
It's a journey, not a race. Life today is good. Each day has new possibilities.... new choices.... new good things coming about.