Originally Posted by 180Man

I am being proactive, packing up all of my stuff, and preparing to leave in organized fashion.

Once I am on my own. I should minimize contact. Allow her to take the initiative. Invite her out for coffees occasionally. I am going to do my best to sit with my new surroundings and the loneliness that will come with it, and focus on recovery. I still have a nicotine and, to a much lesser extent, video game addiction that I want to work on, and one of my biggest goals is to eliminate distractions from my life so that I can learn to sit with discomfort.

At the same time, I want to be sure I am doing enough to show my wife I still care about her, even if we are separated and our future is very much in doubt.

M180