Thanks again for the advice and just for relating to my situation. I talked to AH this morning and he plans to start an iop program. In the meantime, while he’s arranging things, he’s going to AA meetings (which is a significant move for him since he has eschewed then in the past). He wants to meet to see us tomorrow and spend some time with our child.
In an unfortunate coincidence, I also have placenta previa (placenta blocking cervix and requiring c-section at 35-36 weeks) as one of the kind women who responded to me also had. I worry about what I will do if I hemorrhage while alone with my daughter, if I’m put on bed rest, and how I’ll take care of my two children (with baby preterm) after a c-section. It was a diagnosis that was hard to come to terms with when I wasn’t alone. But, I have to remind myself that my husband while drinking would not be of any help and likely make any emergencies worse to deal with.