Originally Posted by Frickaflip233

Dude they are married. Ya can't just say 'hey, been a drunk for a long time. Now I'm gonna get sober and change EVERYTHING. If you can't just get on board, support me the way I feel you should, then hit the road be-otch'. He's been sober 11 DAYS. I'm guessing he drank for longer than 11 days. There are resentments, patterns of behavior. Her world is probably reeling. Even if it 'should' be better, change doesn't often 'feel' better at first.

Alcoholism is incredibly hard to deal with. Alcoholics? When we're drinking, we're fricken NUTS. Full stop. Even a alleged functional alcoholic, or controlled alcoholic (both full on myths...like unicorns) are still Batshlit crazy to a non addict.

Its hard. Really hard. For everyone involved. And it takes time, compassion, patience and forgiveness