Hello!
Lady, you just asked someone to send you a picture of a soiled bed... what does that tell you about the state of this relationship? It seems like the both of you are feeding off each other with the ping-pong of messages. Why engage with this person? By what you describe we can tell that this person isnt ready to get well. The other thing is that abuse has nothing to do with alcoholism.
If you really love this person the best thing you can do for them is leave them and block them and never look back. Hopefully this will help him realize the state of his life. You are NOT his savior!!! Get off this horrible nightmare. This is the only life that you have, do you really want to spend it like this?