Hello Jewel,
Congrats on getting to your first meeting.
He needs to focus on his sobriety and I need to focus on fixing the anger and co-dependency issues I've had towards him for a long time.
What you said right there is the key. I am going through the same thing and am shocked how unbelievable difficult I am finding it.
Reach out anytime and keep coming back as they say. You are not alone.