Inquiringmind,
Welcome!
I am a big fan of AlAnon meetings. They are the program meetings for friends and family of alcoholics. I learned so much through AlAnon. I know it's hard to find an hour when you have little ones, but maybe even once a week?
I live in a big city and there were lunchtime meetings near my workplace when I first started going to AlAnon. I loved those meetings - lots of busy people who obviously were keeping so much stuff together and still finding peace of mind through AlAnon. AlaTeen is great for teenagers too - I wish I had known about that when I was in high school.
http://al-anon.org
Peace,
B