Welcome Inquiring Mind. I am so sorry for what brings you here as well as happy you found us.
I second what the others are saying that you need to look at yourself and your own needs. I know it is so contra-intuitive but it is what everyone of us who have been through this have discovered.
You might give Alanon a try. It works for some but not all. Also the book Codependent No More is a bit of a bible around here.
