The reason people relapse is because they do not take drinking off the table forever. Many just take it off "one day at a time", so they leave the door open for future use.
Make a permanent promise. "I will never drink alcohol again, and I will never change my mind, no matter what."
It doesn't matter what happens - the key is NEVER change your mind, NO MATTER WHAT. If you never drink alcohol again, you will never have another relapse. Never have another Day 1. There is no bargaining and it is so freeing.
This is the method I use and I'll be 3 years sober in Feb. I have never attended meetings. My only support is reading here on SR. No white knuckling, no regrets. Life has gotten better and I have no desires to drink alcohol, because I don't drink and I will never change my mind, no matter what.
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