Okay wildflower. So presumably he's on the way home or you are then. That's good.
The rest of it doesn't need to be a problem any more. Not if you decide it isn't. We are allowed to walk away from unhealthy relationships without any explanation. No is a complete sentence. And it doesn't matter if he doesn't like that. Just get away from him, finish it and block him.
It's up to you. It this a problem or a complaint? Problems have solutions. Complaints go on and on the same old same old. What happens next is entireky up to you.
Hopefully when I come home from work tonight ill be able to check in and find that you chose to deal with the problem and have been at home, fetish-man-free, snuggled up with the cats. But it's up to you to make the move.
BB