I still think DontRemember has good advice. I'm sorry, I have to say this is a
bad idea. I tried this. Sure my ex agreed to go to counseling, but only because it was a way to control me:
I'll go so that the next time she catches me using, she'll forgive me because I'm being "cooperative". Of course he also acted like he felt bad -- what other choice did he have? Acting sorry means you feel sorry for him.
Marriage counseling kept me in the relationship for years longer than was healthy for either of us.
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Angrymarble 
He has owned up and I have him making the calls and paperwork for marriage counselor. I don’t think he will manipulate bc he feels bad. But whether he’s done drinking is a different story,