Hi Dandylion
Support for autism in the UK is very limited for autistic children and even worse for autistic adults. You need to know the way to fight for services and have the time and headspace to do it with very little at the end. A person I know got 15 hour a month respite for her autistic child but it took her months of assessments and arguing and all they do is take him out for short periods each week. My son won't go out so that type of thing is pointless for me even if I could get it, which is unlikely. I home schooled my kids and have never had any help ever. He is gradually getting more life skills tho so he mostly needs supervision now. I think once you have an autistic child your own hopes and dreams go out the window. Simply there is none but me and once am dead and gone I have no idea what will happen to him. I hope his siblings will take him.