Originally Posted by
Downsideupworld 
The idea of my perfect day is now more than likely unachievable due to this now being part of our story.
It's not the day that matters really though. Of course it's great to have a lovely day but it's the marriage and what happens after the wedding day that really matters.
I'm sure your parents and grandparents would be horrified if they thought you were considering marrying a man when you had serious doubts just to give them a nice day. Surely they would rather you be true to yourself.