Welcome, wagster. I found recovery amid an impending divorce, my second one. Nobody ever promised me that staying sober and working on my own issues would save my marriage, but they guaranteed me my life would get better.
Almost 13 years have passed without a drink, I'm now on my 3rd marriage. My life has never been better and every day is a miracle. I have a relationship with my children that is not what I imagined, but it's healthy and I get the chance to be a great example to them.
What I wanted to hear in 2005 was that I could hold my marriage together by my own will, but what I ended up getting was the life that I dreamed of as a result of allowing others to help and lead me, to show me how to live life clean and sober, and to clean up the wreckage of my past.