My husband started being physically abusive to me in front of our 4, now 5 year old daughter. Two weeks ago, he was arrested for domestic violence in front of a child; we currently have a no contact order in place from the judge.
i can't imagine a single argument that would support going back to this person. he was abusive to you - bad enough - but IN FRONT of small children. that is someone who not only crossed a line, but HAS no lines, no buffers.
it doesn't matter what things were like six years ago..it matters what they are today, in the now. i don't care WHAT his history is, what happened, his demons.....he HURT you and did so in front of a small child. that is inexcusable. undefendable.