Sorry to hear of your situation. The hardest part of having addicts in your life is watching them and not being able to help. I agree that you need alanon and you might have to leave. You don't get him drunk and you won't get him sober. Letting go is the best way you can help him. It sounds and feels wrong but it one of the most successful approaches. Most alcoholics have chosen or created a co-dependant lifestyle. Take away their support system and their bottom hits them hard. Good luck and get some help from an objective professional. it will help you see and understand the situation from a non-emotional perspective.