Hi, Cleo--glad you found SR and hoping you can take the time to read around the forums. There is a TON of inspiration and education to be had here.
I'd like to second the suggestion that you check into the "Family and Friends" section of the forum. Everybody there will understand your situation and questions, as we're in all stages of learning to deal with an alcoholic in our lives as well as how to deal with our OWN lives. Link here:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ly-alcoholics/
Please stop by and introduce yourself when you have a moment.