Harleygirl,
For me, the best way to work through my anger seems to be journaling. By writing out how I'm feeling, why I'm feeling it, just letting all of it out of me and onto a paper that is for no eyes other than my own, I can see what I need to see. I can figure out for me what my part is, or what I'm feeling that isn't really mine to own, among other things.
May help you, may not...take what you like and leave the rest.
