Hi and welcome renegadeyankee
I'm sorry it doesn't look like it's going to work out but these things happen to everyone not just those involved with addicts or peeps in recovery - if it's not right it's not right.
The right relationship will weather all problems.
I think too with the right relationship it's less like a renovation that might or might not 'pay off' and more like a loving union of souls
You sound like a nice person. All the best for finding the right one
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