My hubby hates to be told what to do and probably won't if I don't ask or carefully word my request, but on the flip side of that I can't stand for someone to tell me what to do either. Generally I won't whatever it is either. As you might imagine our children generally don't respond well to "orders" either!
So I wouldn't say it was an alcoholic thing, because there are lots of us that aren't addicts and don't like to be told what to do!