Do we have the same brother, Bebrave?
The situation you are describing almost exactly mirrors my family situation.
Alcohol addict sib lives with my 92 year old mom, and has for years.
He has lost so many jobs, burned through a marriage and several relationships.
Gets a small disability stipend that my other sib, his guardian, manages for him.
He is a horrible person, self centered, nasty to my mom at times, all the while living in her home and sponging money from her when he is too lazy to get his a** to his bank.
My father died about 10 years ago, and that was when my brother’s drinking really took off.
My mom can’t say no to him, never could.
I guess the only thing I would say is that, if it were me, I would help him navigate getting a subsidized place, as those pathways can be tough for the addled brain.
And a subsidized place takes the onus off you to provide for him.
Again, me?
I would have no problem going no contact once he was moved in.
My brother doesn’t drive, either, and he manages to get around.
He walks, occasionally takes a cab ( not often. Cabs take up drinking money) and gets rides from people.
Honey, you don’t owe him a damn thing. He has had a life just the way he wants it: a place to live and drink, money to spend on booze, and parents who cushioned every fall.
I, too, have struggled with drinking, now sober for 4 years.
I consider my brother an excellent role model of how not to be.
Good luck and good thoughts.