That is correct. It is NOT happening to me. I have chosen to take this path with full knowledge of what I am doing. I am choosing to tip toe through the mine fields and across the atom bombs.
I am doing this because he says he wants more than what he has now. He is not happy where he is. Because, he doesn't know how to stop. He is not allowed to stop by the support system around him. The give him implicit consent to drink and then tell him he is just a F*** up. Literally. It is a battle for what he wants. It is a battle for what he doesn't want.
Alanon, 30 years. Alanon is not about walking away, unless it is required. It is not about fixing the addict. It is about making sure you take care of yourself. That you are able to live serenely. I am doing that.