I'm very glad you put your sobriety first. I'm sober 26 years and have seen countless people go out over relationships; most don't get back in. I had the worst relationship of my life with an other recovering alcoholic (who didn't go to meetings or have a program) and to this day would never date another recovering alcoholic. It's true what they say in the rooms: "having a relationship is like pouring Miracle Grow on your character defects." Big hug.