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Sorry for the long explanation, so me and my boyfriend have been in a long distance relationship for 10 months now, we have always been extremely close and put forth a mutual effort to see each other at least every month, this past summer I ended up moving to California with him for three months until I started school again, things were great until he evtually started getting into drugs (he had been addicted to another drug in his past but went to rehab and got over it, this time is was xanax) and our relationship started to get bad after that because he would hide it from me. He eventually stopped while I was there when I told him to and we had the best remaining month together. When I got back to my home state he started to take them again and lied to me about it for about almost two months until he confessed everything to me and said he needed help, so he went to a detox program that was only suppose to be a few days, the next thing I know I don't hear from him for a month even though I keep texting him (during this time his mom responds to me on his phone saying he didn't even have it) until I noticed he was active on social media but still not contacting me so after three days of that I messaged him saying “are we still together” and he finally messaged me back saying he is in a rehab and he can't have his phone but he can now for a little bit everyday, so we talked for a little bit for a week and it was just like how we always talk and it was very nice, then he didn't talk to me randomly for two weeks until he finally texted me saying he was out and he loved me and how rehab was very helpful and he really connected with one of the counselor who he would continue to have phone meetings with everyday, he then went directly to Italy where he was spending thanksgiving with his family, he texted me almost everyday he was there and even said he got me a gift from there, last Saturday we texted for a while , really nice messages, then all the sudden my texts stopped delivering, and I figured it's because he was traveling back to the US. 5 days passed and still no word from him, I even texted his mom asking if he went back to rehab, to my surprise she texted back saying no, he's at home. My boyfriends phone has been shut off for almost a week, he's not the type to go without his phone ever. I freaked out and was so hurt that he probably knows I feel bad about this but continues to ignore me and not even send a quick text saying “I can't talk for the next week I'm going through something” instead he is compelty ignoring me with his phone shut off. I understand he hasn't been home since going to rehab and I'm trying to understand it but I've never been addicted to anything or had to go through that process. While he was using drugs he lost his car, potentially his job, and respect from a lot of people. He really cares about what people think about him and his job so I can't imagine having to realize all the damage he's done now that he's sober. I sent him a lot of texts asking him to please talk to me and that this is hurting me, and on the day I texted his mom he finally turned his phone on and im assuming read all my worrying messages and then turned his phone back off and didn't respond. We have always been the type to make sure we talk to each other everyday and FaceTimes every night, we are very close with each other and would always communicate if there was a problem. I know he's trying to focus on himself and is probably being encouraged to do so, but this doesn't justify him ignoring me after 10 months. He knows I'm probably really sad right now but still no word from him. I don't doubt that he loves me, but It worries me that he doesn't feel a strong need to text me letting me know what's going on because our relationship hasn't been “normal” for 2 months now since he went to rehab.