I'm sorry you are going through this. It sounds like this has been going on for a while. And you've tried to deal with the situation. I don't know but it may be time to move on. It is good that you are not married, but the longer you stay the harder it will get to leave. Take care of yourself and your family as first priority. Don't look for confirmation from this guy that he has a problem. He clearly does. But alcoholism is a disease of denial too and those who are in the midst of a problem rarely see it. And it usually gets worse. Xo