Angrymarble.....you have work to do because it is the only way to save your life....The things you will be doing are for YOU and your welfare...not as a punishment....
Actually, he would have a lot...a LOT...of work to do if he were ever to decide he wants to get into real recovery....
A Joke...(sort of)....A woman was crossing the street and was hit by a speeding auto....When the ambulance came, the attendant informed her that her leg was badly broken and that they were taking her to the hospital...She, angrily, replied "I am not going to go anywhere! That driver caused this---make him go!"
There is no one who has lived with a practicing alcoholic who is not damaged, to some extent by the experience.....alanon, therapy, etc. is to help you to recover and heal from that damage....