Your posts are inspiring to me. One day at the time indeed. I know you said that you have been without contact from him and you said you have children with him.
I question this for myself daily. Can I keep my son away from it? Is that fair? I am about to walk out tomorrow and I want to send him an email that if he wants to see his son, he could, but a part of me doesn't want that.
My son constantly asks for his dad's whereabouts and I always have to explain that daddy went for a walk, daddy is not home, etc... and I feel that during this transition, he should not see his dad, since he might just say things to him that he doesn't deserve to hear. He has already verbally abused me and called me names in front of him.
How are you handling the no-kids situation?