Honeybee,
I encourage you to trust yourself about your feeling about him not being ready to come home yet. If he is serious then he has all the time in the world to prove it to you. It is so hard for us to put ourselves first, but I encourage you to do so. My husband is still living at home and causing a lot of grief and trouble. It takes a lot of nerve for me to put him out of the house, even though that would be the best thing for me. My point is, if he is already living else where, then you don't have to fight this battle of getting him out of the house again, if he relapses. I pray for you, I am traveling your road, and the way is tough. We can make it to the other side. Huggs, Rose