Originally Posted by Girlfriend

So, is this what you would call emotional manipulation?

My ex H had a learning disability in grade school. But, is very intelligent in many areas....just has problems in reading and writing (which I tried to help him in every year for 15 years, but he'd give up).

Every time we'd get into an argument and I'd bring up the fact ---especially towards the end---that the two of us just weren't communicating at all, I wasn't happy and hadn't been, he'd say "So you're telling me I'm too DUMB to be married to you, right?"

When I never even mentioned a WORD about his intelligence (or lack of, like he thought). He'd always say things to me like "I never could imagine a lady like you would ever love a dumb guy like me". That would bug the heck outta me. Because, of course, I'm to say "You're not dumb! You're very intelligent".

Is that a form of emotional manipulation?