(((((chambersk71)))))) I wish I could give you a big hug right now.
Gosh, this is so tough what you're going through.
We need to focus on you & your healing. You will get through this & even though it doesn't feel like it right now, there are better days ahead.
Truth of the matter is that getting sober is only the start of a long road of recovery & he sounds like much of that path is still ahead of him. Highly unlikely that he can offer the best part of himself to anyone at the moment.
Addicts only have 1 true love, and that is their substance of choice. It takes a long time away from the being under the power of that substance to reverse that.
SR is a great community & there is a section for friends and family of alcoholics that can also offer support too.