Yep. I get it.
I don’t live with an alcohol dependent person, in that he/she is not in the same house as I am.
But I see my alcohol addicted sib almost every day because he lives with my mother in her house, and I am one of her caregivers.
I won’t go into the details, and I am sure you would have a few of your own, MCE, were we to swap stories.
But I well understand the feeling of being trapped in a situation.
I WISH I didnt have to see my sib or deal with his alcohol fueled shenanigans at times.
And I wait for the day when I won’t have to.
He isn’t going anywhere, and Mom won’t put him out.
Sadly, This enmeshed duo will come apart when one of them dies.
He can be helpful at times, if only for his presence in the house, and my mom likes having someone there.
Even if that someone is falling down drunk at times.
So...that is my unholy bargain.
I respect anyone who decides that life with an alcoholic is just too much, and they leave.
I think it is a brave thing to do, especially when children are involved.
But I also know that leaving isn’t always an option.
Take care of yourself and your family.
Wishing you strength as you find your way forward.